"As more of humanity practices heart-based living it will qualify the 'rite of passage' into the next level of consciousness. Using our heart's intuitive guidance, will become common sense- based on practical intelligence." -Doc Childre, Founder of HeartMath
First off- I must acknowledge the transformative weekend I had. I was witness to some of the most sacred knowledge and culture I will ever experience. I DO NOT say this lightly or to exaggerate. Our society is good at that- exaggerating and desensitizing poignant words. I will not.
Gena Kirby of the Progressive Parenting Network is truly an enlightened individual. Her work and vision are one from the cosmos. It's difficult even to explain the ways in which I feel changed -in my work with birth families and HypnoBirthing classes of course, but also in my calling as a mom to two precious boys, and in my life as a spiritual being sharing this mortal state with all of you. I will share a little bit of my enlightenment with you on what I thought was going to be in the very least a great birth workshop--turned into something so much more.
On Saturday, we started with our Rebozo workshop (which is SO much more than a piece of fabric) here I write on Birth Heart and Intuition. It's going to be a journey but I can promise that if your heart and mind are open you will begin to envision the sanctity as I did and you can capture the importance of the heart and intuition.
Ok ready? Here we go!
Did you know that your heart emits electromagnetic pulses? Some of you might be saying, "Uh... yes, Katrina, that's a heart beat!" Of course you are right! This sounds simplistic, but I don't think you've ever thought about it quite like this:
You have the spiky bumps, you know, the super tall ones (that's the scientific name, of course) to indicate the BEEP! Or the beat of your heart. Have you ever thought about the the space in between the spikes? Those are your emotions!! Your heart and your brain send signals back and forth to code one another with the activity they should pursue. Brain can tell heart to speed up- stress, exercise, etc. Or slow down- meditation, sleep, etc. Heart can signal back to brain and so on. They are good buddies.
Well, the electromagnetic pulses and what's going on in spaces in between those beats are not contained within your body alone. Check out this video to see how that works and why it's important! The scientists at The Institute of HeartMath are not messing around-
Did you watch it? Did you SEE? Did you catch the vision of this? We can affect the environment around us just with our thoughts, emotions, intuition, and intent! This is one reason why you can:
-tell something is wrong with someone even when they say that they are fine.
-feel the weird-ish feeling in the air when there's tension, or sadness even if you just arrived.
-get super jazzed/"high" in a group with a collective goal = synergy
-look into someone's eye and just know, just understand one another without words =empathy
-hug someone to make them feel better, feel your warmth and love for them
-be uncomfortable somewhere and can't exactly explain why
-note the change in a group of strangers after they've gotten to know one another a bit, just by "holding space" and feeling it. (Need to know what I mean by "holding space"? Check this out- Nurture Birth Services)
The list goes on and on!
We are all connected. There are others of our brothers and sisters who need to draw upon our pulses; we need to give and receive these pulses to provide our life with that essential connectivity and meaning we are all striving for. Imagine and embrace the possibilities with me!
What does any this all have to do with birth? Sure-- a birth worker must only be blogging about birth! lol. The same applications apply in any area! In class one of HypnoBirthing we discuss this principle at length. This is encompasses nearly all of the Laws of the Mind, what we think is what we get, our habits are our life, don't breed negative thoughts, reactions must be managed, attitude of gratitude, every thought causes a physical reaction! (I will be writing more about these in the coming time) This is THE THING. The thing that the families I work with wish that their families, friends, care providers, other supporters and random grocery store strangers would understand!
If we as birth workers (educators, doulas, midwives, doctors, nurses, family/friends of the expectant couple and so on) carry our own baggage around emitting this tainted frequency we are inadvertently imprinting it on others! Even our own "successful" stories of others' good births may, for some, do harm in providing an expectation that our clients' inner-consciousness cannot live up to.
Think of the damage we could do!
Think of the support, empathy, and witness we could provide instead!
When we are working with families expecting a new life, it's NOT about us. We must manage our intentions. If you have had a negative experience, as a doula and need to heal from that do so, before it's projected onto someone else!
It's NOT about us.
I know this concept isn't tangible in the way that some of you would like it to be. Some of the most important things and feelings and experiences of this life are not. Some of us are more in-tune with these types of pulses (from our own hearts or others'). But we can all imagine what outcome we could have by being responsible for what we send out by way of our heart! Maybe you think this sounds too "woo" or "fuzzy-lovey"? Learn to access your heart's intentions, learn to control them, put it to the test and then tell me. I'd love to know what affects you have on others and what you learn and feel as you do this.
As my parting manifesto- We must cleanse ourselves and sync up our mind and heart and access vital humility to let the families we work with follow their intuition. Our job is supporter, and witness only. Witness to THE miracle. What an honor that should be that these families are inviting us to witness their deeply intimate miracle.
In further musings we will explore more of the WHY this is really so important for laboring moms and the HOW to accomplish it with yourself and on behalf of the families with whom we work.
Stay tuned for more in which we investigate "Quantum Midwifery" and the Holistic Stages of Birth as shared by The Matrona.
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